end the summer frustration !!

Does it frustrate you when you see so many attractive women walking around in summer. All dressed in their sexy summer dresses and shorts. Do you wish you had the nerve to approach them but know its pointless as you wouldn’t know what to say.
However learning to approach and attract women is just a learnable skill. Once you have mastered it it is simple really.
Just adapt a step by step approach and treat it as you would learn any other skill.

Here is how I did it when I decided to improve my dating life.
-First break it down into learnable stages and write them down.. study theories and take advice. Then formulate an action plan for each stage and practice in the house. Then off onto the streets and start approaching. Learn from your mistakes adapt and retry. That is just what I did seven years ago. Since then I have cold approached over 5,000 women and got very good at doing it!!!

If you want to sort your dating life out fast why don’t you contact me when you realis the advantage of having a mentor..someone that has walked the path and can guide you.. See rapid improvement and save money on useless dates that only end in frustration. Don’t make all the mistakes that I did and save your valuable time.

Talk to you soon Nathan

which one are you?

Hi guys ..here is a copy of an e-mail I received from carlos xuma..it brings back memories from my distant past before I realized that attracting women is just a learnable skill.
This is a public forum so I never post my covert techniques as they are to controversial plus I don't want just anybody to have them. If you want to learn more just e-mail me direct at silvafox99@hotmail.com
REGARDS NATHAN-here to help



2 kinds of Men by carlos xuma

There are two kinds of men in the world today, and I want you to meet them ... because you're probably one of them. Actually, you're probably both, to a degree, but you are definitely more one than the other. Each of these two guys is single, intelligent, and generally a 'nice' guy.

What they do have is widely disparate ATTITUDES toward life. Allow me illustrate:

Bob is just an average guy. He goes to work, comes home, eats dinner. He hangs out with friends at happy hour from time to time. He generally hopes that good things will happen to him.

But Bob is passive. He doesn't seek out ways to take charge and influence his world. Bob is too concerned with protecting his image of himself.

He goes out and meets women on occasion, but he finds the same pattern evolving: He meets a gal every once in a while, usually by luck. He'll ask and get her number from her. He'll call a day or two later, and usually get an answering machine. She never calls him back, and he ends up calling several times before he finally gets hold of her. She's usually polite, and he'll muster up the courage to ask for a date. She agrees, but when the day comes for them to meet up, she calls him and says she can't make it. Or she stands him up. Bob then looks at this as being yet another reason women are unreliable, and he starts to get self-righteous. He's doing everything right, and THEY are acting all weird. It must be them, he figures.

And his passivity increases. Why bother trying if you just get shot down every time?

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Dave on the other hand is average, too. But he rises above the average because of his attitude: Dave is active about his life. He takes the wheel of his life and steers it where he wants to go. He knows that if life isn't going the way he wants it, he has the power to make it happen himself.

He doesn't sit back expecting his abilities with women to succeed; he actively seeks out opportunities to try and learn from his interactions. When he fails in a seduction, he looks back on what he could do differently, not scared that making a mistake means he's unworthy as a man.

Dave understands that when a woman acts a certain way, it is usually something he could influence with his approach and attitude. While her rejections do not mean anything to his worth, he does know that he can change his approach and learn to decrease those rejections. The answer isn't finding just the right woman as it is understanding what parts of him he can develop and present to get more women interested.

Dave seeks out information and guidance to learn and improve. He doesn't let life happen TO him, he makes it happen.

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These two men demonstrate the kind of men who eventually get dates and get laid, or the ones that get stuck in the Downward Spiral, becoming more bitter and avoiding women.

The only man who isn't worthy of a woman is the one who isn't learning from his mistakes and trying again. He picks himself up, dusts himself off, and tries until he succeeds. He only fails when he fails to keep trying and learning from his attempts.

So which of these two would you rather be?

Notice, I didn't ask you which of them you ARE. All of us have elements of both men.

And it doesn't matter in the end, because I'm giving you an opportunity that other people will never offer you in life: You can stand at this crossroads and choose to settle for whatever results you're currently getting with women, or you can choose to take the path of action. You can learn and improve with your strategy and get more women.

Or ... Well, I think you know what lies down that road.

Don't be the man sitting in front of the wood stove who says "Give me heat first, and THEN I'll throw in the wood."

If this strikes a chord then take action NOW...to improve your dating life!!
I can show you how easy it really silvafox99@hotmail.com

NO MORE LONLEY NIGHTS

Once you start to learn the skills of attraction it will bring you success that you have not experienced before.Here is a lesson from Lance Mason !

Relationships may fall apart from variousstrains and challenges over time, but in mostcases the very best time to deal with thosechallenges are when they FIRST come up rightat the very beginning. Unfortunately, this is rarely done for asimple reason. When we first meet someone special, we reallydo become 'blinded' by love in a sense. All these crazy hormones affect our judgment,and more importantly our ability torationalize away potential problems. This is a fairly well understood biologicalprocess, and if you think you're above it'seffects, then maybe you also think you canbreath the air at 50,000 ft or survive for amonth without water. When we are blinded by love, we naturallyoverlook the shortcomings of our partners,and more important, the shortcomings of therelationship. And THAT is a shame. Women are INCREDIBLY flexible when they feelsafe with a strong and responsible man, andrelationships that are just forming are likea blank page waiting to accept whatever youcan dream up and create. On the other hand, any small problems thatform early on can magnify many times over asthe relationship evolves. Something that seems insignificant in thebeginning can easily create a rift that willgo on to destroy an otherwise healthyrelationship. Because of that, you owe to yourself, and toher, to stomp out problems right away, beforethey turn into resentment - resentment thatcan destroy the relationship. I'll give you a simple example. Back when I was hanging out with all thefamous 'pickup artists' mentioned in NeilStrauss book "The Game", I spent a lot oftime meeting women in bars and clubs. I also put way too much weight on how 'hot' awoman was - to the extent that I lost sightof some other more important standards I hadset for the women I date. In my pursuit for more attractive, moredesired women, I ended up breaking my longstanding rule of never dating women whosmoked. (By the way, if you're a smoker, that's cooland we can still be friends. As a non-smoker, it just happens to be a turn-off forme personally) Anyway, I thought it would be interesting tosee if some of the old Zero Drama Dating bag'o tricks could help make the situation workout with some of these smokin' hotties whohappened to smoke. I had recently had a short relationship witha smoker, and formed a little story about myexperiences with her. I never told this story to women when I firstmet them, but I WOULD tell it to them firsttime they smoked in front of me during adate. This story did a few important things: It conveyed that I did not judge people whosmoked. It also conveyed that I did not find smokingattractive, and that I just wasn't able tomake dating a women who smoked around mework. Since it didn't work, I wouldn't put myself -or a woman that was important to me - throughthat situation again. When I was done with the story, I looked thewoman in the eye and SINCERELY asked if shewould agree to NOT smoke during the time shechose to be with me. Like everything during that time of my life,this whole thing seemed like just a funexperiment... ...until the next time I met a truly AMAZINGwomen, that is. She was stunning and graceful. Savagely intelligent... AND You guessed it... a smoker. We dated for a few months before she had tomove back to South Africa for her career, andhad a great time together. I'll never forget the last thing she said tome. She said I was the ONLY man she had ever quitsmoking for. She said that many men had tried to get herto quit, and the more she tried the more shehad resisted. She had no why she had stopped for me - but Iknew. Those men had ACCEPTED her as a smoker whenthey were blinded by love, but had then triedto control her and change her behavior later. I, on the other hand, did not try to changeher or control her when we were in arelationship. I had simply articulated my rules aboutdating and relationships, and I had done itBEFORE I was 'blinded by love'. In fact, I had done it before we had evenkissed. And I did it with respect, while emphasizingthat she had a choice to accept me the way Iam or not. So when you meet an amazing woman, and thingsare going well, and you start getting excitedthat this could really be leadingsomewhere... STAY FOCUSED. This is NOT the time to just relax and enjoythe fruits of your labor. No my friend... This is the time to set the right foundation,to make sure the relationship moves in adirection where it can flourish. And the BETTER things are, the more youshould look for opportunities to make it EVENbetter. If I've learned anything from my experiences,it's that things can always be better youever thought possible, and women WILL respondto a strong man who has the best interests ofthe relationship at heart. After all, it's pretty easy to make a womanhappy when you simply CAN'T BELIEVE how goodyou have it with her. And when you're in that situation, you'll doanything but take advantage of her. You will cherish her, protect her, and findnew way ways to light her up. And you'll be a better man then you everthought you could be. Until then, prepare yourself, because whenyou meet her, the time for learning thebasics will be over. It will be time for you to act on what youhave learned about women, and to show herthat you can understand her and take care ofher better then she understands herself. She's out there somewhere... When you meet her, be ready.

Here is an e-mail I recieved from Adam Lyons that is packed full of adaptable content!

if you have any questions regarding this e-mail please dont hesitate to ask me at silvafox99@hotmail.com.-Nathan

This email is about an area of much confusion, yet an area of much significance. Going Direct.

What sets the really successful people apart from those that just fluff their way through relationships is the art of being direct. There are many myths and a lot of nonsense surrounding the direct approach. You may want to print out and keep this email - because in my continuing efforts to help you improve your love life - I am about to share the essentials of going direct that you really should know. I would be surprised if the contents of this email did not translate to a significant difference to your dating life over the next year - if you apply all the principles we are going to cover. (By the way, if you're totally new to the subject of going direct it simply refers to the art of stating your intentions truthfully to someone, no matter what they are and dealing with the results.)

First, lets dispel some of the myths about going direct. My favourite myth is 'the direct approach doesn't work.' This ingenious conclusion is arrived at by the fact that you and I know that most people brush off direct approaches from random strangers all the time. The truth is that whilst a high proportion may walk away from a complete random stranger a good proportion will at least listen to what you initially say. If you have enough qualities of attraction right from the start then the confidence you show by approaching someone directly can often be enough to swing things into your favour, at least to the point that you will have their attention.

Now at this I can hear a number of people thinking to themselves, (girls esspecially) that they would come across as "easy." However, that isn't necessarily the case. It's all based on what you say when you do approach someone.

When done correctly there is almost nothing as beautiful as telling someone exactly what you think about them and having them return that thought with a positive response, as essentially you have just given them a massive compliment. Though it is important to understand what it is ok to compliment on. Compliments are covered quite extensively in the Personal Study Course so I won't go over them again here. However, it is important to understand that a compliment should only ever be given on something that is earned. i.e. something someone has taken time over acheiving, and not something they are graced with naturally.

After alot of experimentation I've found something that I find works particulalry well. Feel free to change it or come up with your own, as it's often better to tailor phrases to your own style. Remember, it is important to understand what each of the phrases represents, and why they're included.


"Hey, I'm so sorry to bother you. I'm on my way to meet a few friends but you look really interesting. On top of that, you have a pretty friendly face for someone in the city, so I knew I'd be kicking myself all day if I didn't take the time to say hi.

So, hi, I'm Adam"

Now there's a lot in that.

lets break it down piece by piece;

"Hey, I'm so sorry to bother you, - Being polite is important, it starts things off on a good foot without being rude, and also gives them a reason to pause and listen further. Who knows, maybe you're lost and seeking directions.

I'm on my way to meet a few friends - This does two things. Mentioning friends shows that you're a sociable person, so therefore are unlikely to be too weird, at least not so weird that you don't have friends. Secondly, it drags out the conversation a little bit more, to ensure they're standing still ready for the rest.

but, - If used with a pause it creates anticipation, as the word "but" removes the meaning behind everything spoken previously. It says you actually aren't sorry for approaching and did approach them on purpose.

you look really interesting - Here we have an ambiguous compliment. It is nothing to get too big headed about, and in fact is more likely to generate a lot of questions from them as they wonder what exactly is interesting about them. We all love to hear about ourselves.

On top of that have a pretty friendly face for someone in the city -This really is powerful. Who could possibly resist being nice to someone who told them they looked friendly? It's very rare for us not to live up to positive statements made with reference to us. So if nothing else, they are likely to respond positively to you.

so I knew I'd be kicking myself all day if I didn't take the time to say hi. - This gives a justification for the whole interaction and explains why you actually did the approach. Otherwise it is almost guaranteed that the first response would be them asking why you're talking to them.

So, hi, I'm Adam" - This gets things going for the rest of the interaction.

Going direct is an art and science in itself - and you may want to practice many different ways of doing it. There are some fundamentals which you will want to follow. Here are four of them to keep you going:


1) Remember to have as many qualities of attraction as possible. If you aren't congruent with an attractive person, then it won't work as well. Imagine being approached by someone lacking confidence. It just wouldn't inspire you to talk to them.

2) Don't be afraid to keep going after a failed approach, this is essentially a numbers game until you get comfortable with it. Remember it's only weird if you genuinely try and date everyone you meet. There is nothing wrong with meeting new people as friends. Re-read the phrase above, you'll see it works just as well as a tool to meet new people.

3) Always smile- it will significantly increase the positive response rate.

4) Make sure you follow up the initial meeting with a text instantly! It will capture the moment and make it last a lot longer, it will have a greater impact this way.

Don't ever believe or be fooled that dating is NOT a game

Hi Guys

Don't ever believe or be fooled that dating is NOT a game! That sweet and innocent looking woman that you are trying to chat up is a master. When you were playing conkers and football at school she was learning all about the male/female relationship game and how to win it.

Start to treat dating as you would any other subject. Learn the rules and formulate a gameplan . Practice the skills and go out and play. Then you will start to get better results than when you relied on luck and fate.
Benefit from my seven years experience in the field and get the results you desire!

For further information to up your success with women e-mail me at silvafox99@hotmail.com.
If you have any good friends that are struggling with their dating life then tell them about our Blog.


Talk to you soon Nathan

Always be Prepared

When I go out with my friends they are always chasing the women but with very little success. When they do get a woman’s phone number they are overjoyed and then start asking what to do next. If a woman wanted a one-night stand there and then they would be in total shock. You see I really don’t think they are prepared for success as they are used to failure and only minor success. From have the logistics in place to seduce the woman right down to even having a condom.
When you start using attraction skills in a systemised way you will start to get results far beyond the norm. The typical guy in his late 30’s have more women in a year than he has probably had all his life!
So when you go out are you prepared for success? Is your pad clean and women friendly? If you are out of town have you got a suitable hotel ready? Most important are you carrying condoms as nothing puts a woman off as a man who lacks confidence in his success

Talk to you soon Nathan.

Day gaming

Why do I only concentrate on approaching and attracting women at non-pick up locations?
Quite simply it is so flexible as you have a seven-day a week venue. No more pining all your hopes on Saturday night. That mostly ends in disappointment and always-major expense!
You can just carry on with your normal life approaching and attracting women as you please.
When you first start day gaming it will seem a little unnatural as up until recently you have been lead to believe that it wasn't possible.
The beauty is that if you have a friendly interaction with a woman in the daytime and it doesn't develop into a close you may still bump into her when you're out again.
She will remember you whereas if she were in a club she wouldn't, as she would be drunk!
Also you are sober and it is daylight you can see what the women actually look like.
So persevere through that feeling of discomfort and get into approaching and attracting women in the daytime
After a few weeks you need never set foot in the club again.

Nathan Davies