Once you start to learn the skills of attraction it will bring you success that you have not experienced before.Here is a lesson from Lance Mason !

Relationships may fall apart from variousstrains and challenges over time, but in mostcases the very best time to deal with thosechallenges are when they FIRST come up rightat the very beginning. Unfortunately, this is rarely done for asimple reason. When we first meet someone special, we reallydo become 'blinded' by love in a sense. All these crazy hormones affect our judgment,and more importantly our ability torationalize away potential problems. This is a fairly well understood biologicalprocess, and if you think you're above it'seffects, then maybe you also think you canbreath the air at 50,000 ft or survive for amonth without water. When we are blinded by love, we naturallyoverlook the shortcomings of our partners,and more important, the shortcomings of therelationship. And THAT is a shame. Women are INCREDIBLY flexible when they feelsafe with a strong and responsible man, andrelationships that are just forming are likea blank page waiting to accept whatever youcan dream up and create. On the other hand, any small problems thatform early on can magnify many times over asthe relationship evolves. Something that seems insignificant in thebeginning can easily create a rift that willgo on to destroy an otherwise healthyrelationship. Because of that, you owe to yourself, and toher, to stomp out problems right away, beforethey turn into resentment - resentment thatcan destroy the relationship. I'll give you a simple example. Back when I was hanging out with all thefamous 'pickup artists' mentioned in NeilStrauss book "The Game", I spent a lot oftime meeting women in bars and clubs. I also put way too much weight on how 'hot' awoman was - to the extent that I lost sightof some other more important standards I hadset for the women I date. In my pursuit for more attractive, moredesired women, I ended up breaking my longstanding rule of never dating women whosmoked. (By the way, if you're a smoker, that's cooland we can still be friends. As a non-smoker, it just happens to be a turn-off forme personally) Anyway, I thought it would be interesting tosee if some of the old Zero Drama Dating bag'o tricks could help make the situation workout with some of these smokin' hotties whohappened to smoke. I had recently had a short relationship witha smoker, and formed a little story about myexperiences with her. I never told this story to women when I firstmet them, but I WOULD tell it to them firsttime they smoked in front of me during adate. This story did a few important things: It conveyed that I did not judge people whosmoked. It also conveyed that I did not find smokingattractive, and that I just wasn't able tomake dating a women who smoked around mework. Since it didn't work, I wouldn't put myself -or a woman that was important to me - throughthat situation again. When I was done with the story, I looked thewoman in the eye and SINCERELY asked if shewould agree to NOT smoke during the time shechose to be with me. Like everything during that time of my life,this whole thing seemed like just a funexperiment... ...until the next time I met a truly AMAZINGwomen, that is. She was stunning and graceful. Savagely intelligent... AND You guessed it... a smoker. We dated for a few months before she had tomove back to South Africa for her career, andhad a great time together. I'll never forget the last thing she said tome. She said I was the ONLY man she had ever quitsmoking for. She said that many men had tried to get herto quit, and the more she tried the more shehad resisted. She had no why she had stopped for me - but Iknew. Those men had ACCEPTED her as a smoker whenthey were blinded by love, but had then triedto control her and change her behavior later. I, on the other hand, did not try to changeher or control her when we were in arelationship. I had simply articulated my rules aboutdating and relationships, and I had done itBEFORE I was 'blinded by love'. In fact, I had done it before we had evenkissed. And I did it with respect, while emphasizingthat she had a choice to accept me the way Iam or not. So when you meet an amazing woman, and thingsare going well, and you start getting excitedthat this could really be leadingsomewhere... STAY FOCUSED. This is NOT the time to just relax and enjoythe fruits of your labor. No my friend... This is the time to set the right foundation,to make sure the relationship moves in adirection where it can flourish. And the BETTER things are, the more youshould look for opportunities to make it EVENbetter. If I've learned anything from my experiences,it's that things can always be better youever thought possible, and women WILL respondto a strong man who has the best interests ofthe relationship at heart. After all, it's pretty easy to make a womanhappy when you simply CAN'T BELIEVE how goodyou have it with her. And when you're in that situation, you'll doanything but take advantage of her. You will cherish her, protect her, and findnew way ways to light her up. And you'll be a better man then you everthought you could be. Until then, prepare yourself, because whenyou meet her, the time for learning thebasics will be over. It will be time for you to act on what youhave learned about women, and to show herthat you can understand her and take care ofher better then she understands herself. She's out there somewhere... When you meet her, be ready.