personal authority by j alanis

There is a single male trait women are biologically programmed to
respond to, a trait all men naturally have, but unfortunately a
trait that is now being repressed by societal and cultural
conditioning.

That trait is called "personal authority" and it is the essence of
maleness--an essence that is being denigrated and suppressed by all
the wimps, wusses, and girlie men in the media who are afraid of
the responsibility it carries.

Women want men who lead within the relationship, who look out for
them, who set boundaries for them, who provide not only stability
and security, but a feeling of stability and security.

Most men today look for women to lead, and do everything that's the
opposite of personal authority. They whine. They start arguments.
They worry about what others think. They're incredible insecure.
They have weak, damaged self images. They have entitlement
mentalities. They're looking for someone else to take care of
them, and worse yet, these kinds of males (not men) are everywhere.

What you have to understand about women is this: they have their
time wasted over and over by men with no personal authority
whatsoever, and so they test for it very quickly, then move on.
They don't wait around to see if you develop it, or if you're just
a bit slow to display it.

Not only must you have personal authority, she must perceive you to
have personal authority, else she will move on quickly. Women are
incredibly frustrated with all the girlie men they meet, and have
zero tolerance for them.

Personal authority is the lynchpin to attraction. If you have it...
or develop it... you will be successful with women. If you don't,
you won't--it's that simple.